In attempting to write about the year I realized if I took an account for everything good and bad that has happened this year it would have taken to long to write about yet alone read. So to sum up my part 2 of how awesome this year has been I decided to reflect upon how becoming a stay at home dad in the beginning of the year and focusing on family has shifted how my wife and I have learned to value what's most important to us.
Becoming a Stay at Home Dad
Becoming a stay at home dad had many challenges due to the fact in a sense as some what think just like myself meant giving up the opportunity to provide for my family. We always seeing being the head of our homes in a mans mind as being able to only provide financially but I've learned if I never made any money myself the most important thing I could ever provide for my son that would last and be of value would be unconditional love and time spent with him. Yes we do need money to survive I suppose while caring for ourselves and our love ones but think about all the many people who don't have money to care for there family and understand that although they have there struggles of not having money they become the most caring and loving people.
All in all becoming a stay at home dad for me was a struggle in the beginning being 26 years old at the time and having to deal with the fact that I would have to operate in a way that most men don't because both parents don't have a choice as who stays home because they have to survive. In the months of being a stay at home parent while going to school full time I faced many challenges but as my son gets old it has become easier to care for him all while juggling schooling, blogging and the many business ventures I am working on. It's made me value all the hard work it took my wife to go back to work after carrying our son for 10 months in the womb and 3 months while off of work and the sacrifice it took for her to return back to work. It's made me realize it's not about being able to provide for him financially because in the end he won't know if I had or didn't have money to care for him. Yet he'll remember all of the library visits, swim lessons and music classes that I attended.
Shifting the Family
As stated before there's been so much that has occurred this year that it would be impossible for me to blog about keeping your attention the entire time while you read it but I'm sure it would be possible but with a 13 month old it may never happen. Okay back to what I was talking about! The shifting of our family came about a few months ago when my wife and I began to reevaluate our lives together and individually it was something that was so needed because without our son it was easy to enjoy life and not have to think about so many things but with him growing up and learning to many things reality set in that there needed to be a change in how our household and how we needed to turn our focus on thinking about us among other things that matter most to us. After reevaluating what we wanted to do and how we needed to get there we began figuring out what needed to happen when it came to our family emotionally, physically, mentally and most certainly financially. It hasn't been an east task but there has been so much improvement that we both are eager about what 2016 has in store for us.
Learning how to Value what's most important
Over the years the have been many people that I've had relationships with weather through church and even people I'm related to that going through this year has allowed me to learn everyone isn't meant to be of value to me. Letting people go after passing can be difficult but cutting ties with people who have gone through life is just as difficult because you always want to feel like there is something more you can do to ensure that relationship will last forever. This year has shown me that everyone you have a relationship with won't always forever and you have to be ok with allowing the relationship to end even if the person doesn't want to. There will be people who try to hang on for dear life because all they've known is to suck the life out of you but you have to learn to be happy with the decisions you make concerning you life and that means letting some people go family and all. My wife and I have learned some very important life and learning to value or marriage and our son is what's most important to you all while valuing ourselves. There have also been many people that we have come in contact with this year that we've lost contact with that value dearly and some who have always been in our lives and will continue to stay in our lives.
Overall this year has had many ups and downs some I thought I wouldn't make it through and some I conquered with flying colors. But as we approach the end of 2015 it excites me to think about all the good that will happen in 2016 not just for me but for everyone. From the inside looking on the outside to everything that is going on in the world some would think there's not getting better but I'll continue to hold on to hope that things will get better. I hope your 2015 was just as adventurous as mine and look forward to seeing and hearing what your expecting in 2016. I'll make sure to continue to keep you posted on all the exciting things happening in the Gamble household especially with my son who has become such a ball of excitement everyday with all the many things he's learning and doing on a daily basis.
Thank you for such a great year of reading and allowing me to share my journey with you all and I look forward to bringing you many more stories! Gotta get to the little one who isn't happy with the phonics video daddy has on the television.
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!