These past few weeks have been amazing to be home with Matthew watching him develop and grow into a little guy has been extremely rewarding. It does my heart good to know that although daddy isn't able to go to work to provide financially that I have the greatest reward of being able to provide emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Not having a father growing up in my own house had its challenges for my brother and I but we've always been determined to make the best of our situations with making our mom proud. I've always said before I had children that I didn't want to be the type of father who felt that as long as I was providing financially for my children that everything was okay. I've seen in many instances when children have resented their fathers because they weren't there but the fathers never saw themselves as having done anything wrong because they were providing financially for their family. I've always believed that although you may be able to provide financially for your family it’s also important to be there physically. It’s always been a prayer of mine to learn from what I didn't have growing up and be the best dad that I could be to my children.
Having been here for the past four weeks with my son it has given me a greater appreciation of God’s blessing; for providing me with such an awesome son and my wife for giving me the opportunity to be here with my son. My relationship that I've build with my son is imperative. My presence will reflect how my son will be with his own family one day and how well he will do in society.
My wife and I haven’t talked about the time I will be home with him because we've decided to leave that to God. But the time I am having with him will be moments that I will never have the opportunity to get back. Seeing him reaching for objects and holding his head during tummy time may not seem like such a big deal to others but to me it’s rewarding to see every milestone.
According to an article written by Roland C. Warren in the Huffington Post he gives four keys points about “Father-Son Relationships: The Things Every Boy Needs from His Dad.” According to his article he describes how these four key points build a foundation or framework, as he describes it, of providing nurturing and guiding. He also helps us understand that there are four fundamental points to ensure a father is helping his son.
These four points are to help us understand the impact that we should have on our son. As my son grows and continues to develop into an outstanding young man my hope is for him to know, not only how valuable he is to me, but that God put him here to serve a valuable purpose in my life as well as others. As a father learning the importance of being a present father, as well as a active father, it is my hope that as you read this that you understand the impact you have on your son when it comes to bonding.
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!