Many times as a stay at home dad I find that my son does many things that my wife doesn't have an opportunity to experience. When we first decided that I would stay home and she would return back to work we made sure to FaceTime, text, call and visit her occasionally so that she could have as much time with him as possible. Once she transitioned from one job to another it wasn't that easy anymore. The good thing is that she got a job that allowed her to be home more with a higher salary and less hours then her past position. It was an even greater opportunity to allow her to spend more time with us since she was out of the home.
As time progressed I noticed that when she would see him do something that I’d already seen him do I would tell her “he did that the other day” or yea, he’s been doing that.” I then realized that although I had already seen him do something that was considered a major milestone that she deserved her moment to see him through his progression as well. It became that important to me that although we couldn't text, talk and FaceTime like we used to that she is able to experience as many milestone of his on her own. It also helps that because she has late nights at work, some days that we are able to have lunch dates with her.
Being a working parent and a new parent can be difficult but for every stay at home parent it’s important to allow your partner to experience milestones on their own. Even if you have to video chat while it’s happening or send videos. These are the things that may help the working parent deal with the struggle of not being present. These are the things I know my wife wouldn't be ok with because she’s hands on and would rather be present to praise him after his achievement. Whatever works for your family does what’s best but make sure they feel included and always join them in their excited after seeing your little one’s milestone.
I recently read an article Working Moms Share the Truth About Missing Baby Milestones. It was a really great article because it shed light on how moms feel when they miss milestones. My favorite part of the article was how the writer wrote “…. proud-mama joy of seeing my baby do something he hadn't quite been able to do the day before.” It’s good to see that regardless if they miss moments there making their own milestones.
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Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!