I know for many parents like myself we have a hard time with being alright with other people touching there baby while out in public. It is something that has bothered me since day one and until this day with my son turning 10 months old is still annoys me. I find it difficult to understand why people assume that it's alright for them to touch your child without your permission especially if there strangers.
My wife and i have been in many difficult situations to where people have touched our son and we knew how we wanted to react but didn't because we froze in the moment. I've learned that people really don't care much about what you say or they never really pay attention to how your face is reacting to them touching your child because there more so interested in entertaining your little one instead of even acknowledging you. Now that I'm more comfortable with ensuring that people don't touch him especially strangers I've learned that it's not my concern to think about there feelings in the moment because my little one is at more of a risk because many people don't think about health hygiene.
A few months ago my wife and I were out along with a friend for my birthday when a women my wife knew came to our table as we were eating. My wife was holding our son who didn't want to be in his car seat and wanted to eat with us when all of a sudden as she was getting ready to hug my wife decided she would kiss our son. In the moment we instantly froze because we didn't know what to do. Even with my wife trying to move him to the other arm she couldn't because she was sitting and the women wouldn't let go. I'd never felt so uncomfortable in my life and vowed to never allow it to happen again. Just recently I seen this lady again and she was supper excited to see our little one but we made sure we informed her and others that they were not allowed to kiss him. She made a funny looking face and informed us that she would kiss him again and others informed her that she must respect our decision not to allow her to kiss him. One women who we know well informed us that she would punch her is she tried to kiss him. That was pretty refreshing because we know she would punch her especially is she couldn't kiss him first because she really loves our little one and would love if our children married once they get older.
you never know the condition of a child that your trying to touch and hand hygiene is important when touching anyone's child especially babies who've never had shots. We've had many people who've asked us could they hold our son and many who have accomplished getting him out of our hands touching, smelling and trying to coddle him without shops. My wife got to the point to where she would switch him from one side of her body to the other when people would approach us to try to touch him. Yes we know and understand that we have a very handsome son and we sometimes can't help all the love, hugs and kisses that he receives from us but we're his parents and there is a respect level that people must adhere to at all times concerning our child.
I recently read an article from Parenting Magazine on "How to Handle Strangers Trying to Touch Baby." All of the tips given in this article were very helpful and many that my wife and I have used and will use in the future when we have more children. If your a soon to be parent, new parent you should read this article on what to do. If your the person who's touching a strangers child you have to remember to learn boundaries and always make sure you ask if it's alright with the parent. Never put yourself in a situation that would be difficult to get out of especially with first time parents.
What would you do if someone kissed, coddled or took your baby out of your hands? Do you allow strangers to touch your child? Are you a mama or papa bear and people assume your always paranoid or overprotective from strangers touching your child?
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!