This past weekend we celebrated my son’s 3rd birthday. I can’t believe my little guy has turned 3 years old and I’m so happy that I’ve had the opportunity to experience it each moment every day of his life so far. I'm so forward to seeing him continue to grow into a strong, independent, driven and successful young man.
As I sit here and write this blog I think about my relationship with my son and how blessed I am to be able to raise him while building relationship, trust, honor and respect for him and him for me. Listening to Good, Good Father by Chris Tomlin just makes me think about the importance of a good father relationship whether good or bad. Can you imagine growing up in a household without a father and not having a good reference point to highlight the impact it may have caused you? I have and I refused many years ago to let any grudge, anger and hurt from my father go in order to focus on relationships that impacted that relationship.
My post isn’t meant to be a religious one but when I think about the relationship I’ve had the grown with my 3-year-old son it always takes me back to the one I sought to have growing up. It brings so much joy to me to see how our relationship with continue to blossom year to year. My ultimate goal in life is to see him grow into a loving, respected and respectful young man who refuses to give up in life.
I know I'm rambling as usual but when you've experienced some thing related to a father and son relationship your unable to avoid talking about it. I take from my own experiences of what I didn't have to ensure I provide my son with more than what I ever had to ensure he has to never question my desire to love, respect, honor and guide him the way God intends for me to do so.
I decided to write my little guy a letter to talk about the past 3 years of his life and what I'm looking forward to in the years to come.
Matthew Happy 3rd birthday! Did you know your name meant “Gift from God”? You have literally been the best gift that mommy and I could have asked us for. I can’t believe that in the last 3 years how much you’ve grown and matured to such a handsome and loving little person. It was just 3 years ago this time where mommy and I brought you home with amazement looking into your eyes wondering what journey we would encounter with you. It’s been the best time of our lives even through all the sleepless nights, many roundtrips with you yelling and frustrated, sick days and times that you’ve hugged, kissed and told us how much you love us. On the nights that we have together when we talk about your day at daycare to the moment we cuddle up with you and say our nighttime prayers sometimes with you leading the prayers are many of our most intimate moments.
Thank you for simply being YOU! Mommy and I wouldn’t have you any other way than what you already are. Our ultimate goal is to protect you but we know and understand that God is the ultimate protector and for that just like we gave you to him when he blessed us with you.
Men and women alike remember that what you don't provide for your children now can have a lasting impact in your relationship with them in the future. Give them what you didn't have and more mentally, emotionally, spiritually and naturally so they never question your love for them. It's never in your actions towards them that they will remember most but will always be the actions that you missed out on that will try to haunt them for the rest of their lives.
Children remember to forgive your parents and how them grace, mercy and love even in their darkest times in life. It's in your ability to love, respect and honor them that will allow God to show you what it means to show you from his perspective how a father or mother is to love you.
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!