The role of an effective father is Guidance, Protection, Presence, Loving, Understanding and Prayerful......
Many times as a writer I'm always given a title of a blog, book or sermon before the content. I knew that this topic was one that I wanted to talk about but I didn't know how to deliver it until a short while ago. As I was sitting here writing it was like God dropped it into my spirit exactly what to say.
As I look back over my own life I think about the relationship that my father and I had growing up and how absent he was. He wasn't what I needed; someone to give me GUIDANCE. He wasn't there to give me the PROTECTION that I needed when I was in trouble. He wasn't PRESENT in my life to be able to LOVE me the way a father is to love on their children. He wasn't there to UNDERSTAND when I needed a mans opinion. He wasn't there lifting me up in PRAYER to ensure that every generational cure was broken and I wouldn't have to grow through many of the things he went through. I've always known my father and had somewhat of a relationship with him and this blog isn't to say that I haven't forgiven him and moved on with a positive relationship, because we have. This blog is to help those boys or young men that although your father isn't there physically, mentally or emotionally, it doesn't mean that there isn't a father in heaven who doesn't want to to be all of the many things that you would need a physical father to be.
"Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons."
-Deuteronomy 4:9 KJV
I remember growing up as a little boy writing letters to my father with the hopes that I would be able to give it to him if I saw him. It wasn't that my father didn't love me, that he chose to be absent or that my mother kept us away. It was simply because my father was dealing with many of his own demons from his own childhood that kept him from being the father that he needed to be.
There are many factors that play into having a parent but especially a father in your life that are important from the
"...problems with personality and psychological adjustment as well as delinquency, and substance abuse."
-Sandra Y. Lee "The Importance of a Father's Involvement"
It was because of the absence of my very own father and the PRESENCE of God that allowed me to walk into the best years of my life, especially when I finally had a true relationship with him. Building my relationship with Christ has been instrumental in me raising my own son. There were many things that had to stop within me so that I could not only build a better relationship with God but so that my son wouldn't have to endure the same generational curses that I've dealt with.
"Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it."
There are many specific prayers that I have prayed for regarding my son and our relationship as father and son. But there are many prayers that I have prayed regarding him and God. My job as an effective father is to always be there for my son through the good and bad, the ups and the downs. It is my job as a parent for my son to always know I will be there to give him the Guidance that he needs. My Protection when he's in trouble. My Presence when he feels that he's all alone. My Love always and forever. An open ear to hear and Understanding when something is going on with him. And my Prayers....
Matthew M. Gamble II (my son) my blogs are my personal journal to you. I want you to know and understand the time that I have with you is not only rewarding but required so that I can show and help you understand the value of having a natural father. But for you to always know THE HEAVENLY FATHER who said....
"Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!