I know it may seem very little to you but after almost 10 months of being the primary caretaker of my son. Managing everything in the house everyday all day and being isolated sometimes from the outside world I knew that I needed to return back to work. Not really for myself but for my son and wife. After the birth of my son my wife and I decided that I would be the one to stay home to care for our son since she was the primary bread winner and made much more money than I did every year. It was difficult giving up the opportunity to find something that could possibly work for my family but I knew without a college degree that it would become that more difficult to make as much money as my wife did. It was even more difficult trying to run a household with one income and to many bills that barely covered all of our bills every month.
Not only am I managing the house and caring for our son I am also a full-time student which adds more stress to everything that I have going on but I’ve managed to focus more on school when I wasn’t working then I had in the past years when I was working full-time which allowed me to raise my GPA and make High Honors. It even allowed me to earn enough credits to graduate this December with my Associates Degree and start my Bachelors Program next spring. Big accomplishments for me I know because without my son I didn’t take my studies as serious. Being placed on academic probation many times and even losing my Kalamazoo Promise Scholarship, thankfully I was able to be reinstated.
Why I went back to work
Okay let me get back on track to better help you understand why my decision to return back to work came so easy. Before I accepted my current role I was offered another position that I accepted and was ready to start until this opportunity came my direction that would be much better for me and my family. It would allow me to go to work in the evenings when my wife was getting off work so that we could avoid having to pay for childcare which is what we’ve had the opportunity of avoiding since our son was born. We’re the type of parents that want to be our children’s biggest influence and we want to be the ones who have the opportunity of raising them and we know personally that we won’t have that opportunity if we dependent of childcare.
The decision to return back to work was an easy decision financially but very difficult emotionally and physically. You see for almost 10 months I’ve had the opportunity to stay home to care for my growing son without having to clock in or report to any superiors unfortunately that came without the opportunity of receiving a financial compensation. But I did receive the best compensation that I have ever received of having the opportunity to enjoy my son’s presence every day. Watching him grow into such a charm, smart and energetic young man has been the best reward of staying home. You still may be wondering but why did you return to work? For these past few months I have blogging about my fun seeing my son grow up but I have also shifted my focus on wanting to educate people financially. I don’t hold a degree in finances nor am I certified in anything financially although working in banking might count for something. I do however know how important it is for me and my family to be debt free and with all the amount of bills that we had coming in with one income we would never get to where we wanted to had I not returned back to work.
Benefits of Working
The best part about working is I having the opportunity to do something I’ve never done before working in finances will give me a better opportunity at how I will become debt free and help other people do the same thing. It has also allowed my family and I to start better preparing for getting rid of unnecessary things on our credit reports as well as miscellaneous monthly debts that we shouldn’t be paying. It’s also allowed us to focus on increasing our personal savings and emergency funds as well as our son’s savings account and will son help us in increasing our retirements and preparing for our future. With me not working for over 9 months we sacrificed many things that we wanted to do or couldn’t do because our limited funds but it has given us a better appreciation for where we desire to be in the next few years financially. It has also given me a greater appreciation of all the hard work and dedication my wife has put into making sure our household was in tack financially relieving me of the stress so that I could continue to further my education.
Although every day I struggle with the thought of having to go to work it bring me great joy when I able to learn something new from my job that I can apply to my own life as well as help others achieve financial freedom but it also helps me in knowing that with my income along with my wife’s that things are much easier for us financially.
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!