As a stay at home dad it's important to me that people understand I'm not the stereotypical stay at home dad. Not only do I do everything inside the home but I also take care of everything outside the home. I don't always cook dinner because my wife enjoys it so much and she has spoiled me in that area. I'm a stay at home dad who's a full time student, blogger, author and business owner. I know sometimes I make it look easy but it can be quite difficult trying to balance it all while building a brand. There have been times when I have noticed the side eye from men and women wondering where my son's mother is. Initially it was quite uncomfortable because I didn't want to be seen as the father who was home because he didn't want to work. After a while I had to realize that I wasn't married to those individuals and whatever my wife and I decided to do was our choice, no matter what anyone had to say about it.
The other day I was told that I was being Mr. Mom. I was initially shocked that it would even come out of the person's mouth. I kindly said no I'm Mr. Dad! The last time I checked not only did I not have a vagina, I had a title of my own, and that was Mr. Dad. As my son gets older he won't acknowledge me as Mr. Mom he'll call me dad. People assume that just because you're a stay at home dad that you take on the role of the mother, which is not the case and never will be the case. I'm a daddy and I matter in my child's life too! I grew up in a single parent home where I had no choice but to learn how to cook, clean and wash because my mother would work two to three jobs at a time so that my brother and I could have what we needed.
Dad's are important in a child's life, and stay at home dad's all across the world have a right to be acknowledged for who they are, and that's a dad. I recently read a blog from another stay at home dad stating why he will always fight against the title Mr. Mom. One thing I want people to know is that there are many fathers who won't stand for being labeled something that they are not. I'm one of those fathers. I refuse to stand for anything less than what I am. I, too, will continue to ensure that people respect and understand how valuable I am in my son's life as Mr. Dad.
I'm Mr. Daddy Duties and I refuse to except anything less!!!
Matthew Gamble Sr. is a father, husband, friend, and blogger. He writes about what it's like to raise Matthew Gamble II also known as M2 as a stay at home father. Join him on his journey into fatherhood with Mr. Daddy Duties!!!